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It’s normal to want to avoid confrontation, but identifying where old patterns of doubt and self-blame come from helps us to be more assertive when necessary
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Filippo hates the feel of cream on his hands but burns easily. Leo says he should slap it on himself. You resolve this heated tiff
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A medical diagnosis meant I had to surrender my driving licence, but I was still asked to pay a termination fee
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Small steps can help lead to big changes. With these top tips, you can go about your daily routine while being a bit kinder to the environment
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Need to escape the noise of life? It’s easier than you think – and you’ll be doing a world of good while you’re at it
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One of the worldâs biggest chocolate producers is working to address the root causes of farmer poverty, child labour risks and the impact of climate breakdown on cocoa farming communities
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With environmental challenges, rising populations and a lack of crop investment, itâs becoming increasingly difficult to farm cocoa in west African countries. So how can positive changes be brought about in this area?
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In sexual situations, I freeze and panic, when all I want is to enjoy stress-free physical and romantic relationships
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It’s easy enough to get lured into adopting a brittle persona, but there are other ways to live your life
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Halfway through her 18,000-mile journey, Lael Wilcox calls in (from her bike) to talk about being in the saddle for 14 hours a day â and why she has no intention of stopping any time soon
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Observe your feelings rather than get lost in them, keep yourself focused on the here and now, and begin to see yourself as a person who deserves great love
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When we revisit a traumatic memory we relive all the original horrors and fears of it â the sweating, panic, fear, heart racing. This sounds like what is happening to you